Tuesday, 20 September 2016

Five ways to achieve as a perfectionist

A person who never made a mistake, never tried anything new. (Albert Einstein)
Are you a perfectionist?
Do you set yourself standards so high that they are almost impossible to reach? Do you frequently feel disappointed with yourself for not being able to meet the standards you set?  Do you worry about what other people would say?  Do you view mistakes as failure? 
If you answer yes to these questions, you may be a perfectionist.
Being a perfectionist, does not lead to perfection…. 
A perfectionist sets themselves extremely high standards which are usually unattainable.  Furthermore, when they don’t achieve perfection, they can spend a large amount of time criticising their efforts leading to feelings of frustration, anxiety and exhaustion.  Their unattainable high standards rarely lead to perfection but instead lead to feelings of not being good enough and a fear of failure which can ultimately stop them from achieving what they want to achieve.
Does this sound familiar?  If so, I am sure you would admit that these experiences can be very stressful and leave you feeling really disappointed with yourself.
Now let’s turn to the good news which is that anyone can be successful without being perfect.  Let me tell you how…
Being successful without perfection.
If you find that being a perfectionist is stopping you from moving forward with your career or any other part of your life, please believe me when I say that there are ways to achieve without being perfect. 
Have a think about something you would like to achieve but have not pursued for fear of failure.  Perhaps it’s a career change, a promotion or a new hobby.  Now have a think about how you can overcome your fear of failure.  Read the following five ways which will enable you to move forward and achieve what you want to achieve:
1.       Stop thinking ‘I am not good enough’ and start thinking ‘I am good enough’.  Nobody is perfect!
2.       Be constructive and don’t worry too much about the detail.  Instead ask yourself, what is the worst that can happen? Accept that we all make mistakes and use these to help you move forward (rather than feeling rubbish about yourself).  How can you do it better next time? 
3.       Be kind to yourself and lower your standards.  You can still set high standards but make them achievable.
4.       What small step can you now take?  Allow for some imperfection! 
5.       Celebrate your achievements!  Enjoy it!
Remember, you can be excellent without being perfect!

Sunday, 4 September 2016

Five simple steps towards a career change (that you can do today!)

Have you been saying for months or even years that you are not happy with your job and want a career change?   Do you struggle to know where to start?  Do you fear change and so have ended up remaining in a role you dislike, despite your motivation decreasing daily?

You are not alone!  Many individuals remain in their current role despite knowing their career aspirations are likely to be found elsewhere.  They remain in these roles due to the common mistaken belief that a career change requires a big life change and therefore involves taking a big step to achieve it.  This step is simply too big, unachievable and scary and so excuses are made to delay any change. 
‘It is not the right time.’

‘The market isn’t good right now.’

‘It is too risky.’      

You remain disappointed and unhappy, continually waiting for the right time to make this big step.

This is so frustrating for you.  However, it doesn’t have to be.  Let me use a quote from Lao Tzu to explain to you how to make your dream career change manageable and achievable.   

‘A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.’ (Lao Tzu)

All that is required of you is to take the first single step towards your career change now.  Yes, it really is that easy. 

Think about it, everything in life requires a first step.  Why should this be any different?  To get to work each day, requires you to get out of bed.  To eat your meals at home, requires the purchase of food.  To arrange a night out with friends, requires communication with your friends.  Without these first steps, you wouldn’t get to work, eat or see your friends.   

The five steps towards a career change

Let me summarise this in five simple steps: 

1.       Accept that a career change does not necessarily involve one great big step. 

2.       Use the above words of Lao Tzu, to frame your thoughts.  

‘A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step’

3.       Decide on your first single step and do it!

4.       Once you have taken the first step, you will have the knowledge and confidence to work out the next step.

5.       Keep taking small steps until you succeed in reaching your desired career. 

This journey may take months.  However, you will always be moving forward and it is far easier to achieve a small first step, followed by lots of little steps, than a great big jump into the unknown. Often taking lots of small steps gets you to your goal more quickly than going for one big, difficult leap and the one that counts the most is the first single step. 

‘A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.’